Attachment to praise and avoidance of criticism

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You don’t need anybody else’s permission to make art except your own. It’s challenging to ignore seemingly ‘helpful’ negative feedback and criticism from those around about your art. Criticism can cut deep, especially when sharing something as vulnerable as your first attempts (or any attempt) at making art. It could even stop you from making anything else, asking yourself “why AM I bothering making this when it’s not any ‘good’?” But good is subjective and irrelevant to the joy that comes from making art and feedback isn’t necessary to continue having fun making.

It’s best not to seek approval, criticism or even praise from anyone outside yourself. Tara Mohr in Playing Big describes that “Attachment to praise and avoidance of criticism keeps us from doing innovative, controversial work and — more simply — from following the paths we feel called toward, whether or not those around us understand or approve.” Seeking praise may mean editing your art to seek approval from others, instead of focusing on what YOU enjoy making.

Be your own cheerleader and advocate. Make art YOU like and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks because they’re not the ones making your art. Opinions are subjective thoughts, not facts. You only need to please yourself, which allows you to get on with the task of making art joyfully.